10/20/10

(This is a post I wrote right after I found out, but nobody else knew at the time.  Everybody knows our little secret now).

I wanted to document these feelings and experiences now, even though we're not sharing them with anyone right now.  I had a suspicion on Thursday, October 14th when my temperature rose another few tenths of a degree.  I have been taking my danged temperature almost every morning since March, and knew that if it spiked again, then that was a good sign that fertilization had happened.  My work wife Elizabeth and I went to the new Target and bought a test, and I took it when I got back to the office.  I thought "why not do it now," and sure enough, it was POSITIVE!  I was shaking and tearing up, and just couldn't believe it that our Boot Camp worked.  (if you want to know what all that included, just email me and I'll tell you.  I'll spare everyone else the details).  I told Brent that night that we had been successful, and the first thing he said was "You're Welcome"! ha!  He was cautiously excited and said that once we go to the doctor for the first time, it'll seem more real.  Although I think he knows something is going on because I go into a sleep coma about 9 p.m. every night. 

At first, Brent wanted to wait until Christmas to tell everybody, but I finally talked him into telling everybody after our first doctors appointment.  He doesn't understand that I have questions that need to be answered!  I am true planner and have already had a freak-out moment about money and daycare. I have also been cautious in my planning because I'm afraid something might happen.  But God reminded me one night that I had enough faith to get to this point, I should have enough faith to make it through the rest of it.  And what I said a few days ago still applies:  I WILL HAVE JOY no matter what happens. I was also reminded that I need to continue to pray because God wants to hear our wishes.

Stay tuned to find out how we told our parents...

Weekend in Springfield and Update on Nannie

Last weekend, my mom and I took my grandmother to my aunt's house in Springfield, Missouri.  We had a great time of just laying around and visiting.  On Saturday, my 2nd cousin Kayla was dancing in the Ozark City Christmas Parade, so we bundled up and headed downtown to watch the parade.  I thought I had enough warm clothes, but it got really cold as soon as the sun went down, so about half-way through the parade, I sat in the car.

Here's my aunt and mother.  They are a mess! 

Once again, Aunt Debbie...we told her she looks like a homeless person here. 

They had lots of old cars in the parade. 

This is another one of my 2nd cousins, Grace.  She is really funny and at a cute age.  We had fun teasing with her. 

Here's me and my two cousins, Shannon and Michelle.  Michelle and I are two months apart in age, and we had the best time growing up.  We would just giggle and laugh!  It was so good to see these girls again. 

Here's Shannon's little boy, Landon.  He is a mess! 

Not sure you can pick her out, but Kayla's in this group dancing. She's an awesome dancer, and is also about 6 ft. tall!  

Luckily we were close to a bathroom, cause this preggers girl had to go! 

My Nannie didn't get to come to the parade because she had a bad cough and didn't want to get out in the cold.  She was seeming to get better, but after we left, her cough got worse, and they had to take her to the ER.  She had a stroke back in September that affected her speech, but she had recovered from that and we thought was doing better except for some blood thinning issues.  The doctors originally though she had pneumonia, but after another scan, they found a mass in her lungs.  They did a biopsy, and results will be in on Monday.  The doctors suspect lymphoma, but they are not 100% sure yet.  My parents went back to Springfield on Wednesday, and she got to come home from the hospital on Thursday, so we're just waiting to see what happens.  

We are praying for good news and knows that the Great Physician has his hand in this situation. Please take a few minutes to pray for our family and my Nannie's miraculous healing.  

Oh Baby! It's Thanksgiving!

Since it's Thanksgiving, I couldn't think of a better time to tell our big news.

That's right.  We're expecting a new addition to the Haywood family in June 2011.  This is Baby Haywood's first picture at 7 weeks, and it's hard to see, but the heartbeat was good.  

I am so thankful to God for this blessing and miracle.  We are so excited and have had some interesting moments over the past few months.  Right now, I am about 9 1\2 weeks, and will go back to the doctor on December 7th.  

God is good!!!

Jeff and Mandy's Wedding!

This weekend was Jeff and Mandy's big wedding, and it was so much fun to hang out with our friends.  Brandon, Andrea, Alyssa (5), and Evan (3) Williams from Dallas came to stay with us, and we had a lot of fun visiting and watching the kids play.  Friday night, Brent and I went to the rehearsal dinner at Whole Hog, then on Saturday we went to the Clements house to hang out before the big event, and we also hung out afterwards.  

The groom and groomsmen

He got a pocket watch - a pretty cool gift. 

Lucy Jewel, Evan, and Alyssa.  They had a big time playing together. 

Since Brent was in the wedding, Monkey was my date for the evening. We had a good time eating cake and watching the kids dance. 

The kids watched Toy Story 3 during the ceremony and you didn't hear a peep out of them.  The iPad is a cool distraction tool. 

The bride and groom! 

The Albert Pike Hotel 

Awwww...

Jeremy dancing with the girls.  They had so much fun dancing!  

Believe it or not, event Brent got out there and danced with Alyssa! 

High School buddies:  Brandon Williams, Jeremy Clements, Jeff Yates, Chris Wilson, and Brent. 

After the wedding, the kids got in the bed and watched a movie until we left.  I think I was the first one to tap out at 10:30.  I was exhausted! 

All in all, it was a great weekend.  I love hanging out with friends who we don't see often - we just pick up where we left off and keep going.  We are also thrilled for Jeff and Mandy and their new life together.  They're in Branson this week on their honeymoon, and I must say I'm jealous.  I really love Branson, especially this time of year.  I would leave tomorrow if I could.  

On another topic, I really can't believe Thanksgiving is almost here.  I took down my fall stuff today because I was sick of looking at it.  I'm very ready to get my Christmas tree up and all the other festive decorations up.  I've even got a few presents to wrap.  One thing's for sure - it'll be here before we know it! 

Guardian Supervisor

Last spring we did a temperment survey at work. After answering 70 questions, I was classified as a Guardian Supervisor.  They're doing reviews of each personality types on the company intranet this week, and here's what mine says.  It's fairly accurate, so that's why I'd like to document it in my personal journal.  It's really helped me realize how I am and how I respond to things.  See if you think this fits me to a tee....

Overview of the Guardian Supervisor

Supervisors are willing to put in hard work to make sure a goal is completed. They excel at scheduling, organizing details and executing objectives. They enjoy completing tasks and can give a project momentum through difficult times. They are confident at making decisions and will consistently take actions to complete stages of the project.

They can be very economical and prudent with the available resources and can be counted on to protect assets. They are loyal and enjoy being a part of a team. They are objective and can be counted on to find a logical solution to a problem.

How they communicate:

Supervisors will often need to have discussions to form their ideas and plans, or to digest information. If Supervisors immediately begin talking about information or a request for information, they may just need to speak their thoughts out loud in order to process the information.

Supervisors will communicate with others by being serious and sincere. They can communicate with high energy, but also by being direct and to the point when they speak. They will challenge others to do their best and provide a clear, well-established framework for others to follow.

Strengths:

They are able to critique plans and point out potential flaws in advance.

They can supervise people and assure that proper results are produced.

They are skilled in following and executing the plan.

Can take charge quickly and steer a project onto the right course.

Are very hands-on and will work with the team to complete a project.


Leadership style:

Will treat team members fairly and impartially.

Will encourage team members to tie up loose ends at the end of a project and have everything be complete.

Are able to make tough-minded decisions.

Will expect teammates to adhere to high standards and principles.


How they annoy others

May abruptly dismiss ideas they think are not logical or impractical, or be too blunt when they communicate.

May disregard others' feelings to complete a project.

May complete projects to meet deadlines but not allow for needed improvements to reach higher levels of success.

May focus more on tasks and actions than the sentiments of the team.

May be too bossy or micromanaging and drive hard for completion.

May rush too quickly to judgment without considering all the potential implications or others' points of view.

Can be rigid and try to fit everything into a structure or schedule and are not comfortable with ambiguity or lack of closure.


Weaknesses

May be skeptical and resistant to change if a new, untried solution or process is presented.

May get very frustrated with constant change or unjustified decisions from management.

May pressure people to make decisions quickly, even if they are not ready to decide.

May force changes to happen rather than waiting for consensus or approval.

Can be blunt, demanding, and insensitive when interacting with the team.


Areas to work on

Be able to change course if it's the wrong direction, even though a lot of effort has been invested.

Be more flexible in allowing non-traditional approaches to problem solving or accomplishing tasks.

Be more diplomatic in times of stress and avoid saying hurtful or sarcastic things to co-workers.

Be sure to reply with your comments regarding the Guardian Supervisors.